MIDLAND, Texas (Big 2/Fox 24) 2020, has been a difficult year for all of us. With challenges in real life and on social media, combined, it can cause us to have moments we might later regret.
“Social media makes everyone angry right now. How often do you look at the comments and think I was fine, and then I started looking at Facebook and Twitter and are now upset? People are way more likely to express themselves in a negative fashion on social media than they would face-to-face. Another great thing to do is sometimes put social media away and take a break from it.”Melanie Saiz, marketing director, The Centers for Children and Families.
Here in the Permian Basin, the experts at The Centers for Children and Families, Kristi Edwards, executive director, and therapist, and Melanie Saiz, marketing director, share ways to understand anger, how to manage it, and when to ask for help.
“Many of us were raised without being able to express anger. As a child, if you slammed the door, your parents would tell you to open and close that door the right way or take off its hinges… If every attempt that you made to let something out was met with you not expressing your anger, that will lead to years and years of suppressed anger,” said Edwards. She also said that as you get older, if you don’t have a healthy outlet to express your anger, it can build and build like a balloon and eventually explode.
Anger can manifest in many inappropriate and harmful ways, from verbally yelling to road-rage or even domestic violence. Some people deal with their anger in explosions. Raging anger may lead to physical abuse or violence; this is when someone has very little control over their temper. Others repress their anger, which ends up becoming bottle up and turns into depression and anxiety.
Edwards said, if your anger results in physical or verbal abuse, it’s best to seek help. Our experts said there’s a limitless amount of exercises and tips that can help you control your anger.
Experts at The Centers For Children and Families offer some suggestions on how to express your anger in healthy ways:
- If you feel out of control, walk away from the situation temporarily, until you cool down.
- Recognize and accept the emotion as normal and part of life.
- Try to pinpoint the exact reasons why you feel angry.
- Once you have identified the problem, consider coming up with different strategies to remedy the situation.
- Do something physical, such as going for a run or playing a sport. Talk to someone you trust about how you’re feeling.
When you teach children how to express anger, it’s essential to lead by example and let them know that anger is natural and should be expressed appropriately. Encouraging open and honest communication at home will allow you to explain the difference between aggression and anger. If you have any questions or concerns, you can seek a Family Counselor for guidance.
“Another exercise you can use is to simply count to 10.”Kristi Edwards, executive director and therapist, The Centers for Children and Families
“Whenever you get mad, counting to 10 really does work, because you are breathing and counting. Whenever you get angry, you may recognize you are taking more shallow breaths. Counting helps you calm down by taking deeper breaths,” said Edwards.
If your loved one needs help, this extended interview with our experts provides some tips on how to share your concerns.
Along with the weekly Centers Solutions podcast, the team at Centers is also working on a special podcast called Voice from 2020. The goal of the project is to create a time capsule of stories from this challenging year. Whether funny or painful, the team is looking for submissions of recorded stories. For instructions, click here. If you have additional questions, you can email email@example.com.
Centers Solutions: COVID EDITION podcast: Angry at 2020 (Available Friday)
For more information, contact Centers for Children and Families:
- Midland: 3701 Andrews Highway | Midland, TX 79703 | (432) 570-1084
- Odessa: 4241 Tanglewood Ln. | Odessa, TX 79762 | (432) 580-7006
- Website: www.CentersTX.org https://centerstx.org
Through June, Centers for Children and Families are offering the first session free for anyone who needs help. During this pandemic, they are also providing that the first two sessions be free for all Health Care Workers and First Responders fighting Covid-19.